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Do you Apologize to your Children?

     So, as I sit down to write this I've prayed over what to say and how to say it. Hoping that is all comes out right and can be understood. The question is...Do you apologize to your children? I know I'm not the only mama out there that had a baby up most of the night, the alarm didn't go off, you forgot to prep your child's lunch the night before so now you are even later than you could have been because you have to take the time to fix it. Things spun out of control at work or home the rest of the day and when the evening comes you are so beyond frustrated out it comes.....harsh words to our kids. I've lashed out many times before, it's like you just snap and it can't be controlled. You know what? It's ok! We all have bad days, you're doing a terrific job, Mama! Don't let it ruin you! It's what we do during the next few moments that I as a parent have come to view as extremely important and necessary! I stop what I am doing and I pull Zoe into my arms, I hug her and tell her "I have had a bad day. Everyone has bad days, I am sorry that I fussed at you for....Will you please forgive me?" I believe it is pertinent that she hears me apologize during these situations not only for myself but for her. I'm reminded of Ephesians 4:32 "Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God has forgiven you because you belong in Christ." So take a moment to let them know you are having a bad day, apologize. You will be amazed at the relief you feel and the love they shower over you. Set the example for them.

     It is important to us that Zoe and Pennie Jo be given a firm foundation in Christ as they grow so they can make their own choices and see the world hopefully through the eyes of Jesus. I know the innocence will fade as they grow but if rooted in the word I pray they will  grow to be beautiful young daughters of the King. With this being said, this is why I believe it is important for us to apologize to our children when things happen and for them to see us apologize to others if the occasion arises. It is very rare for my husband and I to disagree in front of them, we will usually wait til they are in bed to discuss things. However, each time it has happened we make sure they see us apologize to one another and hear us make amends. They learn so much by watching and listening to us, let's make sure we are setting a good example for them to follow in.  It's ok to have bad days, it is how we react and overcome them that our children will see and imitate.

     You are doing a great job, Mama...Don't give up if you have a bad day, you are not a failure...you are human! God showers us with his grace and love, bask in it then show your children the same love!

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